<\/strong>Ho trovato questo capitolo breve, semplice e bellissimo. Mi ha colpita il modo in cui Whyte collega l\u2019et\u00e0 al nostro modo di vivere il rimpianto: \u00e8 un\u2019idea che non avevo mai incontrato prima, eppure ha molto senso.\nI rimpianti della giovinezza non sono sempre utili, a meno che non ci spingano a cambiare il modo in cui ci comportiamo con gli altri. Forse perch\u00e9, da giovani, i rimpianti tendono a essere vuoti e improduttivi: si aggiungono solo al mucchio di bastoni con cui amiamo autoflagellarci. Ci colpevolizziamo, ci fissiamo su ci\u00f2 che avrebbe dovuto essere, invece di usare il rimpianto come una lezione.
\u00c8 per questo che il rimpianto maturo mi sembra pi\u00f9 interessante, pi\u00f9 praticabile. Si pu\u00f2 sbagliare senza massacrarsi, e questo, a sua volta, permette di prendersi pi\u00f9 rischi. Credo di iniziarne a sentire i primi segnali, e la vita mi sembra pi\u00f9 leggera \u2014 forse sto persino evitando di perdere certe occasioni. Per la maggior parte delle persone, la frase di Mark Twain \u00e8 vera: \u201cCi pentiamo pi\u00f9 delle cose che non abbiamo fatto che di quelle che abbiamo fatto.\u201d
Mi piace che Whyte dia al rimpianto una valenza positiva. Cos\u00ec spesso ci viene detto che \u00e8 qualcosa da reprimere o da evitare. Ma se invece fosse una porta verso la riflessione? Pu\u00f2 aiutarci a crescere e a fare scelte migliori in futuro \u2014 purch\u00e9 non ci restiamo intrappolati troppo a lungo.
Sono particolarmente curiosa di sentire il punto di vista di Patrizia e Brunella su questo contrasto tra il rimpianto giovanile e quello maturo, perch\u00e9 immagino che li abbiano conosciuti entrambi\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
PATRIZIA:<\/strong> BRUNELLA:<\/strong> LAYLA:I found this chapter short, simple and beautiful. I was struck by how Whyte links age to the way we experience regret\u2014it\u2019s an idea I\u2019d never come across before, yet it makes a lot of sense. Regrets in youth aren\u2019t always useful, unless they push us to change how we behave toward others. 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I was struck by how Whyte links age to the way we experience regret\u2014it\u2019s an idea I\u2019d never come across before, yet it makes a lot of sense. Regrets in youth aren\u2019t always useful, unless they push us to change how we behave toward others. This is…","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pgXoml-4a","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":275,"url":"https:\/\/30-60-90.uk\/it\/2026\/02\/04\/week-four-run-away\/","url_meta":{"origin":258,"position":0},"title":"Settimana 6: FUGGIRE","author":"laylafls","date":"Febbraio 4, 2026","format":false,"excerpt":"LAYLA:The need to escape is an urge I often experience. 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Definirei il rimpianto come un sentimento di nostalgica tristezza evocato da eventi passati che sottende spesso una domanda: che cosa sarebbe cambiato se\u2026?
Allora il rimpianto pu\u00f2 avere senso se strumentale a una qualche forma di apprendimento volto all\u2019evitamento di comportamenti che, con il senno del poi, abbiamo giudicato non ideali.
Il rimpianto non ha per me altra utilit\u00e0. Una volta individuata la lezione da apprendere, la mente dovrebbe tornare a concentrarsi sul presente, correggere la rotta e immaginare un nuovo futuro.
Perch\u00e9 sedersi nel rimpianto \u00e8 un vano esercizio di autoflagellazione capace di offuscare il bello del presente.
Le persone che praticano la gratitudine e coltivano la gioia nel quotidiano non vivono di rimpianti. Accettano il fatto che siamo tutti attori obbligati a improvvisare la nostra vita scena dopo scena, senza copioni. Ogni situazione \u00e8 un \u201cCiak, si gira e buona la prima\u201d. Sanno, quelle persone, che se avessero potuto ripetere la stessa scena l\u2019avrebbero girata meglio, ma che indietro non si torna. Parole e azioni sono solidificate nel momento e consegnate al passato. Resta il presente.
Ma so che per me \u00e8 facile discettare: non esistono episodi che hanno completamente deragliato la mia vita. In pi\u00f9, la scarsa memoria, e conseguente fievole propensione per la nostalgia, unita alla mia felicit\u00e0 nel presente e gratitudine per ci\u00f2 che ho e ho avuto, contribuiscono a proteggermi dai rimpianti.
Lo ritengo un privilegio del quale ho la fortuna di godere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Molto bello il capitolo e la definizione di \u201crimpianto\u201d: una parola breve, evocativa e di una bellezza struggente, un\u2019elegia alle possibilit\u00e0 perdute.
E chi non ha rimpianti?
Ci vuole la maturit\u00e0 per rimpiangere e, se il tempo \u00e8 dalla tua parte, puoi sempre recuperare. Con la vecchiaia tutto cambia: tanti rimpianti ma mancano altre possibilit\u00e0.
Mia dolce e bella Layla, la tua nonna novantenne si consola ricordando a se stessa che l\u2019et\u00e0 altro non \u00e8 che una condizione mentale. Se restringe il mio campo di interessi e attivit\u00e0, non mi toglie tutto<\/em> possibilit\u00e0. Silvia mi ha regalato il libro \u201cL\u2019et\u00e0 sperimentale\u201d,<\/em>un incitamento a vedere la vecchiaia non come un declino ma come una nuova possibilit\u00e0, un cammino in salita e non in discesa. Vivere da vecchi giovani.
\"L'uomo diventa vecchio quando i rimpianti prendono il posto dei sogni.\" -- John Barrymore
La tua nonna di errori ne ha commessi tanti, ma si dice che un esperto \u00e8 qualcuno che ha fatto tutti gli errori
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