<\/strong>Ho sempre fatto fatica ad accettare l\u2019idea che il destino sia qualcosa di gi\u00e0 scritto, inciso nella pietra. Per questo il modo in cui Whyte ne parla mi ha colpita.
Non possiamo controllare gran parte di ci\u00f2 che ci accade: il momento in cui le cose avvengono, le scelte degli altri, le svolte imprevedibili della vita. Ma possiamo<\/em> scegliere come rispondere. Possiamo decidere quanto restare aperte, quanto di noi offrire, se irrigidirci o ammorbidirci davanti a ci\u00f2 che ci viene incontro.
\u00c8 molto pi\u00f9 incoraggiante pensare di avere un ruolo nel plasmare la nostra vita. Altrimenti, che senso avrebbe decidere? Perch\u00e9 affrontare il peso delle scelte, o impegnarci a crescere, se tutto fosse gi\u00e0 stabilito?
Certo, ci sono eventi che sfuggono a ogni logica \u2014 momenti cos\u00ec improvvisi o assurdi da farci chiedere se fossero destino o semplice sfortuna. Molte di noi hanno vissuto dei \u201cquasi\u201d, situazioni che sarebbero potute andare in tutt\u2019altra direzione. Io li vedo come il frutto del caso, non del destino: \u00e8 la vita che ci ricorda quanto sia fragile e imprevedibile.
Eppure, se attribuisco al caso ci\u00f2 che fa male, forse dovrei fare lo stesso anche con ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 bello. Anche se \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 facile chiamare destino<\/em> ci\u00f2 che ci illumina, e caso ci\u00f2 che ci ferisce .<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
PATRIZIA: BRUNELLA:<\/strong> Credo sia stato Eraclito il primo a far corrispondere l\u2019idea di destino al nostro modo di essere. Una locuzione latina spesso ripetuta da mamma mia \u00e8 questa: \u201cHomo faber est suae quisque fortunae\u201d<\/em>(l\u2019uomo \u00e8 artefice della propria fortuna). Come scrive Whyte: \u201cSiamo plasmati dal nostro modo di plasmare il mondo, che a sua volta ci plasma\u2026 Il nostro destino \u00e8 plasmato non solo dalle grandi potenze, ma anche dal modo in cui noi modelliamo e conduciamo le conversazioni quotidiane di una vita familiare.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Cara Layla e Patrizia, non bisogna mai smettere di dialogare con il mondo e con la propria coscienza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n LAYLA:I\u2019ve always struggled with the concept that destiny is set in stone. So Whyte\u2019s take on it really resonated. We can\u2019t control so much of what happens to us: timing, other people\u2019s actions, random turn of events- but we can control how we respond to it. We choose how open we are, how much of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":274420141,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1368],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-302","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":false,"thumbnail":false,"medium":false,"medium_large":false,"large":false,"1536x1536":false,"2048x2048":false,"trp-custom-language-flag":false,"newspack-article-block-landscape-large":false,"newspack-article-block-portrait-large":false,"newspack-article-block-square-large":false,"newspack-article-block-landscape-medium":false,"newspack-article-block-portrait-medium":false,"newspack-article-block-square-medium":false,"newspack-article-block-landscape-intermediate":false,"newspack-article-block-portrait-intermediate":false,"newspack-article-block-square-intermediate":false,"newspack-article-block-landscape-small":false,"newspack-article-block-portrait-small":false,"newspack-article-block-square-small":false,"newspack-article-block-landscape-tiny":false,"newspack-article-block-portrait-tiny":false,"newspack-article-block-square-tiny":false,"newspack-article-block-uncropped":false},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"laylafls","author_link":"https:\/\/30-60-90.uk\/it\/author\/laylafls\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"LAYLA:I\u2019ve always struggled with the concept that destiny is set in stone. 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<\/strong>Leggendo questo brano ho rivisitato l\u2019importante distinzione tra Caso e Destino.
Il primo determina gli accadimenti senza alcun disegno o ragione, secondo un principio di pura casualit\u00e0, appunto. Il secondo concatena gli eventi secondo un principio di causa ed effetto, pi\u00f9 o meno intelligibile, muovendoli verso un fine preciso.
Del Caso siamo dunque alla merc\u00e9, ma sul destino esercitiamo una qualche forma di controllo e possiamo contribuire a modellarlo attraverso la narrazione individuale. Come spiega l\u2019autore: \u201cDue persone che guardano al futuro in modo diverso hanno un futuro diverso davanti a s\u00e9\u201d.
Di fronte a ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 stato, che \u00e8 o che sar\u00e0, l\u2019interpretazione individuale degli eventi separa chi rinuncia alla lotta da chi scende nell\u2019arena, chi spera da chi dispera, chi continua a credere da chi perde tutto. In essenza non siamo noi a controllare i dadi, ma nostra \u00e8 la facolt\u00e0 di decidere quale senso attribuire al gioco.\nTrovo che sia un concetto profondo e ben formulato sul quale vale la pena riflettere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Personalmente mi sono sempre ribellata all\u2019idea di essere un burattino mosso da un burattinaio, da forze misteriose e dominatrici a cui abbiamo dato il nome di Fato, Parche, Destino, Sorte, Caso, Predestinazione\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ogni responsabilit\u00e0 ci viene cos\u00ec restituita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/30-60-90.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/pexels-felix-mittermeier-956981-1.jpg?resize=6070%2C3414&ssl=1\" "\\"pexels-felix-mittermeier-956981\\"")
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