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LAYLA:<\/strong>
Ho capito presto che l\u2019onest\u00e0 \u00e8 fondamentale. Non per principi morali, ma perch\u00e9 ero davvero incapace di mentire. Ogni volta che ci provavo, il mio volto tradiva tutto, e i miei genitori capivano subito. Quando scopri di essere pessima a qualcosa, impari a evitarla. Cos\u00ec, molto prima di riconoscere l\u2019onest\u00e0 come una virt\u00f9, ho vissuto per forza in base ad essa.
Il capitolo di Whyte sull\u2019argomento mi ha dato molto su cui riflettere. Scrive che \"\u00abla paura della perdita\u2026 \u00e8 alla base di tutte le disonest\u00e0, consce e inconsce\u00bb. \u00c8 un\u2019idea convincente. Gran parte di ci\u00f2 che nascondiamo nasce dalla paura: paura di perdere amore, reputazione, sicurezza, appartenenza. Mentiamo per proteggere ci\u00f2 che ci sembra indispensabile.
Eppure, quando guardo a chi governa nazioni e detiene potere, la teoria viene messa alla prova. S\u00ec, parte della disonest\u00e0 nasce dalla paura di perdere influenza e controllo. Ma molto deriva anche da ci\u00f2 che si pu\u00f2 ottenere: ambizione, vette scalate per colmare sentimenti di inadeguatezza, tentativi di mascherare il vuoto interiore con una grandezza apparente. Tutta la disonest\u00e0 si riduce alla paura? O nasce anche dall\u2019insoddisfazione verso se stesse?
L\u2019onest\u00e0 raramente \u00e8 semplice, soprattutto per chi sente tutto pi\u00f9 profondamente. Non vuoi ferire, quindi scegli il silenzio. Ma trattenersi troppo genera risentimento. \u00c8 meglio dire la propria verit\u00e0, con gentilezza ma fermezza: l\u2019onest\u00e0 senza empatia \u00e8 crudelt\u00e0.<\/em>.
Come osserva Whyte, l\u2019onest\u00e0 comincia dal riconoscere quanto poco sappiamo- quanto siamo realmente impotenti- e dal trovare forza in questa consapevolezza.
Pi\u00f9 invecchio, pi\u00f9 vivo la mia verit\u00e0, e pi\u00f9 diventa naturale. \nL\u2019onest\u00e0, anche quando \u00e8 difficile, \u00e8 libert\u00e0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

PATRIZIA:<\/strong>
Di tutte le Consolazioni <\/em>lette sinora, quella sull'onest\u00e0 mi ha colpita in modo particolare. Ogni frase invita a riflessioni profonde e mi appare come verit\u00e0 innegabile.
L\u2019onest\u00e0 non \u00e8 solo dire la verit\u00e0, ma ammettere di essere sempre a un passo dalla disonest\u00e0 per quella paura o avversione, umanamente condivisibile, verso ogni tipo di perdita: certezze, identit\u00e0, meritoriet\u00e0 della fiducia che chiediamo agli altri di riporre in noi.
L\u2019onest\u00e0 diventa coraggio di accettare la realt\u00e0, per ci\u00f2 che di essa sappiamo e per ci\u00f2 che non sappiamo, di superare il duello mentale tra perdita e guadagno ammettendo che, in verit\u00e0, non possediamo nulla e nulla possiamo realmente possedere, che niente \u00e8 per sempre e tutto \u00e8 immanente e in continuo divenire, che la realt\u00e0, quella pi\u00f9 difficile da accettare, \u00e8 un caos assordante.
La scelta di non varcare la soglia dell\u2019onest\u00e0 \u00e8 giustificabile se motivata dal bisogno di proteggere chi amiamo nel profondo, e lascia posto alle piccole finzioni che risparmiano i sentimenti altrui. \u00c8 una scelta che a volte opero, convinta che, in fondo, non abbia senso ferire o indebolire chi amo con parole o azioni frutto della mia individualit\u00e0.
Ma con me stessa provo sempre a ragionare con onest\u00e0. A volte mi serve tempo per disgregare il bisogno di essere nel giusto, ma perpetrare infingimenti e cecit\u00e0 finisce per causare crepe e crolli nella coscienza che, nel suo fondo, la verit\u00e0 la conosce.
L\u2019onest\u00e0 rafforza interiormente e, se esercitata con umilt\u00e0 e umanit\u00e0, crea spazio per crescere, evolvere e migliorare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

BRUNELLA:<\/strong>
Per Whyte l\u2019onest\u00e0 \u00e8 radicata nell\u2019umilt\u00e0, anzi nell\u2019umiliazione, e nell\u2019ammettere esattamente dove siamo impotenti, e la si raggiunge attraversando la porta del dolore e della perdita. Quindi onest\u00e0 non \u00e8 rivelare la verit\u00e0, ma riconoscere di essere impotenti.
Secondo me, la perdita di cui parla Whyte non \u00e8 solo il lutto e non \u00e8 vista solo come evento traumatico, ma costruttiva: un\u2019esperienza che rivela il valore delle cose e la fragilit\u00e0 della nostra vita.
A me \u00e8 stato insegnato che l\u2019onest\u00e0 \u00e8 una qualit\u00e0 morale di chi agisce coscienziosamente nel rispetto degli altri.
Non \u00e8 genetica n\u00e9 permanente: molto breve \u00e8 il passo tra onest\u00e0 e disonest\u00e0. Una virt\u00f9 complessa perch\u00e9 richiede molte e forse troppe qualit\u00e0: lealt\u00e0, correttezza, coerenza, affidabilit\u00e0, determinazione, coraggio\u2026 e tanto, tantissimo impegno.

Un percorso di trasformazione interiore tra i pi\u00f9 difficili.

Per me l\u2019onest\u00e0, come l\u2019integrit\u00e0 e la purezza, ha il carattere della santit\u00e0, alla quale non credo. Sono cresciuta con i principi della saggezza popolare: \u201cFidarsi \u00e8 bene, non fidarsi \u00e8 meglio\u201d e \u201cAttenti al lupo\u201d. Per\u00f2 mi sono stati trasmessi tanti bellissimi principi: la sincerit\u00e0, l\u2019umilt\u00e0, la riconoscenza, la compassione, il perdono, la pazienza, il rispetto, la solidariet\u00e0, la responsabilit\u00e0 delle proprie azioni\u2026 valori morali che tuttavia non bastano a farmi sentire una persona onesta.
We live in a society that is a kingdom of corruption, deception and dishonesty, where most wear masks. I felt it was more honest non <\/em>parlare di onest\u00e0 agli alunni. Una buona regola per esistere in modo costruttivo \u00e8 non fare agli altri ci\u00f2 che non vuoi sia fatto a te.
Patrizia e Layla, essere onesti significa mettere a nudo se stessi, mostrarsi per quello che si \u00e8, senza paura e vergogna.

Io non posso dire di essere onesta<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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